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Last week I had a conversation with someone who was so frustrated because nothing in her life seemed to be working out! She needs a job and has not been able to find one! She wants a meaningful relationship but men seem to be uninterested in her.
Nothing seems to make her happy anymore and no one seems to notice! She feels confined and restricted because money is tight right now. She has to watch her spending and everything that she wants to do costs money! Each time I tried to cheer her up or make a suggestion that I thought might help she came up with some reason why nothing would work for her. Clearly, I could not help her. Has this ever happened to you?

What do you say? When someone is this unwilling to see some bright spot or positive something in their life to be grateful for it is pretty difficult to turn them around. This is not going to be the time when your help or suggestions will be welcomed. Make an appointment to meet for coffee in a day or so. A little time can make a difference. Text a word or two of encouragement and let your friend know that you are thinking about her and looking forward to seeing her.

We all get down now and again. A good night’s sleep and a new perspective can turn things around! Don’t give up! Time changes everything!

You have spent an amazing chunk of time on a relationship where you were the honest and giving participant and the other person seemed to be getting you and responding to you but it ended or changed and the results were not what you expected. It happens to all of us. Knowing that does not make it easier to understand or make us feel any better. Pouring yourself into a another life to see positive change is an
honest and honorable ambition. Life experience is all about change. Change is always caused by behavior but you are in control of the way you feel about anything that happens. Situations may not be ideal, people make mistakes. We open ourselves to love and concern and we are rejected and hurt by the exchange of human contact. The old adage ‘what doesn’t kill you will make you stronger’ somehow comes to mind!

The puzzle of our lives is made up of pieces that ultimately fit right where they are supposed to fit. Continue to love, continue to learn and share your sometimes wounded heart! You are all the better for it. If you had to do it over, you would!

I love to think about all the possibilities for extreme joy and fulfillment in life!
I look around and see the most amazing people doing the most amazing things! I am not talking about the ‘way–out’ accomplishments of genius or the high tech, out of the realm of possibility for the masses stuff!

I am looking at every day people, dreaming with hope in their hearts! We can all imagine a better life, better relationships and more enjoyment of what we already have. And in that imagining, and in that dreaming we are very much aware of the gratitude that goes along with it all. No matter what state we find ourselves in at this present, we know in our very souls that things can change in an instant and they always do. Getting comfortable in your present circumstance is at best only short lived. Change is a stretcher that pulls us into making our dreams happen for real! You can have the dream you dream! You can take it to the next level! Don’t stop believing in yourself! Dream on! Dream with hope in your beating heart because as long as it is beating you can do anything you truly decide to do!

We find ourselves three months into the new year, how did it get to be ‘changing the clocks time’ already again? God and nature give us so many clues about life and about these times of our lives, these seasons. We get to the place where we feel the changes coming in our bones and in our spirit! We sense that it is time for new beginnings and we so welcome the possibilities of hope anew! There was a time when we were not ruled by technology but by the relational events that still make up the fabric of who we are, how we cope, how we enjoy living and how we adapt and how we change.

I am approaching a different time experience in that I am not who I used to be. I am so thankful for change and growth. I find myself grateful every day that friends and family have toughed it all out with me and lovingly continue to support me as I “evolve” and grow. I look for wisdom in every situation and welcome the opportunity to see a different perspective. I enjoy hearing what you have to say instead of hearing what I have to say!

I dream, I hope, I cry, I think, I love, I laugh, I desire, and I hunger! I pray.

God just stick with me when I am hanging out there and opening myself up to your beautiful humanity! Make me the best I can be so that I can be a representation of who You are. I want to be diligent in love and restoration, building up not tearing down. I want the joyful! I am as ready as I can be! Change me!

If you have been walking around with you shoulders bent and your head down and your eyes looking on the ground, it’s time to look up. It’s time to stand straight and put your shoulders back, chin up, head back and smile at the world. You are somebody! You were made to be great! You were sent here for a purpose that is solely yours and you know what that is!!! You know! Put yourself on the path that leads to your best and do not look back.

It is time for you to arrive at your destiny and live it out! What’s it going to take to make you move into your place in life? No one is holding you back but you! Don’t blame anyone or anything but take ownership of your life. Get on with your life’s work and enjoy it! Stop compromising and putting up with what you don’t want in life and start living the life that has your name on it!

No one can do it for you and no one wants to! Look up and live! Start now!

Negativity…what is it good for? Nothin’

We all get tired and our patience runs short when we do. The worst part about being tired and worn is that you become negative. We complain because we are not ourselves and then we impress people with a version of ourselves that we would never put out there if we functioning normally. Provided, of course, that our normal state of mind is positive and at the very least, tolerant.

Sometimes we have to put on our ‘Happy Face’ and make the best of the situation. Guard yourself against making important decisions when you are tired. Snap out of the low mood and imagine yourself at your best, you will see things differently and you will thank yourself later!